Acceptance is the first step towards achieving anything in life. It is a key component in the beginning of every journey. During this stage the main goal is to overcome the limiting beliefs, get rid of excuses and stop living in denial. While it is not possible to completely get rid of certain belief systems, doubts and fears, it is necessary to accept the reality for what it is. If you are afraid, then accept the fact that you are afraid. If you lack confidence, then accept the fact that you lack confidence. No more excuses and no more denial.
This step might seem easy, but it is not, because here, we are attempting to face ourselves, our weaknesses, our problems, our negative personality traits in order to understand responsibility.
Control stage has to do with our sense of mastery. At this stage we take control of our lives by establishing our goals and creating an action plan to achieve these goals. While we all have certain dreams and aspirations, things that we want on a daily basis, this is not what control stage is about. Control stage is about creating the resolution plan for the negative aspects of our lives that we have accepted in the first stage. It is also the stage where we set our priorities and reasons, which also helps us understand our purpose.
Acceptance is very important for the control stage, because it is very easy to pretend in control, to have unattainable goals and plans that we know we will never follow.
Action stage is pretty self-explanatory. Now that we have accepted our real-selves and everything around us for what it is, now that we have created our action plans, it is time to take action. We take one step at a time, with patience and consistency we follow our action plan. At this stage it is important to successfully accomplish every goal that we have set. Every goal accomplished is a reinforcement for our self-efficacy and our self-concept in general. That is why the action plan that we have created consists of attainable goals.
Action stage is all about consistency, discipline and hard work. Many people fail at this stage because they rely on motivation and inspiration instead of consistency and discipline.